WHY IT NOT IMPORTANT TO HAVE CHILDREN IF THERE'S NO MEANS TO RAISE THEM Written by BUKOLA AYANNIYI

WHY IT NOT IMPORTANT TO HAVE CHILDREN IF THERE'S NO MEANS TO RAISE THEM emotionally, physically, financially

My Name is Ayanniyi Bukola, a native of ibadan in Oyo state, Nigeria.

i believe there's over 1billion topics unsolved when it come to African youths and our denied royalties from our Government in a country like Nigeria, Our foundation over sixty years now is shaken and about to fall.

The reason is simple, a nation that youths are not receiving support or future preparation from their government definitely a failed nation, no matter their wealth, resources or class.

Let us understand Africa is not like America, Europe or Asia whereby all citizens definitely receive support one way or the other from their government, cuddles to many youths of Africa doing well.

Now that our Government have failed us, 

Let us look into other things that we are not suppose to do or even if we want to do it, we should make adequate preparations and be ready for the responsibility without failing at all or managing the course.

Atleast for us to be able to tackle our liabilities, as the rate of poverty in Nigeria is 90% and 10% fortunate Wealthiness, imagine the ratio between the population of about 200 million approximately, 

We need to start been a better Nigerian with a future which can make us more better human being.

Look into this **(not all Nigerians are qualified to have child or children) 

What are some good reasons not to have children?

**I hate the notion that everyone should have kids. That is the dumbest thing ever. 

May be not everyone believe that, but it’s what’s considered “normal.” Wanna turn heads? Say you don’t want kids. Especially as a Male, every time I say that, people tend to discount my feelings on the topic. Everyone replies with, “You’ll change your mind.” Here are some reasons of why not to have kids:

1. 1. If you are unable to support them financially, do not have kids. I’ve seen this time and time again. Many kids just end up suffering the consequences and I believe it’s selfish.
   2. If you are unable to support them emotionally, do not have kids. This one probably matters more than the first one. There are some people who are just not meant to have kids. Raising children requires care, patience, commitment, love, responsibility…and a lot of other things. If you significantly lack emotional maturity and/or can’t emotionally provide for your child, they will suffer.
   3. If you do not like kids, do not have kids. I can’t believe that has to be said.
   4. If you are “selfish” and you want to focus on your goals/yourself, then do not have kids. If you know you want to do something with your life that requires your full dedication and attention, then can you really afford to have them? If they seem like a barrier in your plans then you shouldn’t go that route. Kids shouldn’t be a barrier.
   5. If you cannot manage your expectations, do not have kids. A major problem within many parents is that it’s difficult for them to manage their expectations of their children. It takes a level of maturity to love your child for everything they are and accept them. You have to love them for who they are, not what you hope them to be.
   6. If you’re trying to save a relationship or marriage, do not have kids. This one is quite disgusting to me. Children are not to be used as pawns! You are bringing life into this world, this will NOT salvage your relationship. It is NOT the answer to your problems. Having a kid won’t stop the fighting, it won’t keep him/her from leaving, it won’t keep him/her in love with you.
   7. If you don’t want kids, do not have kids. There are many people that think they should have them just because society tells them to. Don’t have kids just because it seems like what’s right. Have them because you really want them and can provide for them.

   Lastly These are just a few from my head. Not everyone should have children. Many people live happy lives without them. They are not REQUIRED for you to be happy.

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Am inspired by my super beloved late brother Ayanniyi Damilola, who will always let me understand that it good to make children, but make sure you already with no time wasting building a solid foundation for them, not everyone will be lucky to be born into the Otedola's, Dangote's e.t.c ,  the best is make a better life than making alot of children that you can't take care of properly.

IN BLESSED MEMORY OF MY LATE BROTHER

AWESOME MAN (DAMILOLA PAUL AYANNIYI)

All your struggles are noticed and your legacy stands forever* ( Damilola Manu Laurenda Ayanniyi)